I've had the urge to adopt for awhile now. I know I love children, I know I'd love to raise a little girl and I know I don't have the time to play roulette with another pregnancy, hoping it's a girl. Thus the urge to adopt. So I follow a few adoption oriented blogs. One of which recently posted with some thoughts about the Marion IA gal with 15 kids, 8 of whom were adopted from Africa, who just died in a car accident. It shouldn't surprise me, the adoption community, especially the uber-Christian one, is kind of a small world.
After reading the post, about the shock the adoption community felt to have lost a mother, I wondered, are there any among the adoption community that sees this as the terrible situation it really is? That husband now has 15 children, a couple of which are special needs, and no one to stay home with them and raise them, as he has to work. Is there any talk in the adoption community about the morality of continually adopting, past the point of a dozen children? It's only possible from 3rd world nations where they don't care about things. And only possible with the encouragement and financial assistance of Christian organizations. No adoption agency in America would let another child go to a home that already had 14 youngsters. For just this reason, among others.
Sure she left a legacy of love, the service was standing room only. But that won't get that family very far, the husband literally can't even transport all the kids by himself, much less raise them on his own. They've all been homeschooled, so none of them have experience with even the simple routines of leaving the house for school, even if the dad could physically get them there. Every one of those children is now stuck in a terrible situation. The eldest are likely going to have to raise the younger kids themselves, probably foregoing the last of their homeschool education to do it, no matter what their transcripts say. What a great thing to do innocent children. Oh...wait.. not really.
The adoption community, and the Christian groups that funnel money into it, really need to see this tragedy as what it is. Christians playing the savior, and collecting children like they get more grace points for it, nevermind the consequences for the children in question when things like death or illness come along.
I don't like to speak ill of the dead, but the enablers of her children collecting are not dead, so I'm directing this at them. Did they think that with enough children and enough prayer, the family would be spared the normal realities of life, like sickness and death, that make 15 children problematic? Probably, it would match the other crazy things Christians like to believe. Is the community going to step in to raise those 15 children? Probably not. I'm sure they'll pray for them though.
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Speaking of kids in a bad place, I'm going to boost the signal on this group, a little bit.
1000 kids. A foundation seeking to open Iowa homes and hearts to 1000 of the unaccompanied minors at the border. If every state would take in 1000, the humanitarian crisis would be well under control.
-Jennie
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Your assumption that the Christian community would do nothing but pray for this family is wrong. Every evening meal up until December is being supplied, school supplies are being collected, laundry is being done and, yes, prayers are being prayed. The children will be in school this fall, except for the one of the oldest who wants to finish out his last year as a home schooler. As fellow human beings we would not wish this on anyone, much less a mom of 15 children. However, I dare say, even with this tragedy they must learn to live with, they still have one parent. And that, and the love-filled home they live in, is still better than the orphanage most came from. Will the older children be asked to help more - probably. But I bet they won't begrudge it. They all have the legacy of love their mom left them with and their dad continues with.
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